True Tales from the Old Folks Place Part II. What is lost in the mind, can always be found in the heart.

After caring for his wife 24/7 our dad had to admit her into the “Old Timer’s” unit of the complex where they live.  It’s been a brutal transition for Hedy. She feels trapped and misses her hubby. And she is very angry with him. They say it’s normal for them to be angry at the one they love best.

When she first sees him, she waves him away, refusing to look at him. The other day we went to find her as they were at a sing-a-long. Hedy saw us and waved her hand as if to say “go away” and pushed our father away as he tried to bring her over to greet us. Dad refused to be put off and finally she took his hands and let him lead her to us.

Twinsie and I hugged and kissed her, and then Tie a Yellow Ribbon was being sung, and suddenly she was in our father’s arms dancing. Her mind overwhelmed by love in her heart. All forgiven for those beautiful few moments where they danced and kissed for all to see. The heart truly does remember what the mind cannot. Love is always alive there.

Tie a yellow ribbon round the old oak tree, it’s been three long years do you still want me?…”

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Dad and Hedy dancing.
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4 thoughts on “True Tales from the Old Folks Place Part II. What is lost in the mind, can always be found in the heart.

  1. Big hugs BonBon….I sympathize with our Dad….Im sure its very hard for him in many ways…….but it is strange how the mind of Alzheimer works…one minute they are in the present and the next minute they are back 20 yrs….

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  2. Hi Shirl and Sandy. It’s been a true blessing to help her and dad and just a wrenching heartbreak. I told hubby to kill me if I lose my mind and he said “we will take care of each other.” Sigh. I miss my guy.

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